What holds women back is not really men or the economy or even the fact that they are women. What actually holds us back is the "Pull her down (PHD) syndrome" . Yep, you read that right . Most women were taught from a very young age that other women are their rivals and in order to win they have to put other females down.
Our system is patriarchal, therefore, in seeking value and validation, women tend to view themselves as competitors rather than equals.
How do you know you have the PHD Syndrome ?
1. When another woman succeeds .You don't get happy for her , You get envious. ( Jelly , Jelly makes you nasty ! )
2. Withholding information that may empower other women or simply refusing to help them out when you have the time & resources to do so.
3. Crushing the self-esteem of other women by highlighting their flaws & faults.
4. Sabotaging another woman’s efforts, crushing their ideas or passing them up for opportunities.
5. Treating other women like trash simply because you are in a superior position.
These are just 5 symptoms of the PHD Syndrome but there are plenty others . The big question is , How do we prevent / cure it ? Well , It's a matter of perspective & mentality. We have to change the way we view other females , We have to start seeing them as partners and equals instead of rivals or competition.
After changing our mindsets , we need to start encouraging & supporting each other. If a sister is hosting an event , attend it . If she starts a clothing brand , get a T-shirt . She opens a beauty bar ? Go get facebeat. There are many ways to show support , even something as little as sharing her post .
Something as little as complimenting another woman can go a long way ! Express kindness and just give her respect . See ? It's that difficult to build a community of women who love other women , we just have to eradicate the PHD Syndrome.
